From that moment you began asking yourself questions from what’s the best time to give birth to what to buy to a newborn, your life gets seriously messed up. It’s a beautiful mess, but still, it’s a mess. And you need answers.
I spent my entire childhood looking after kids. I suffocated my jealousy towards my two years younger brother when I realised how much joy he brought into my life and then it felt like that was quite enough to me.
My role was to always take care after him, to teach him letters, make silly faces and funny games. What fun was that, I still remember how he laughed when I pretended death every time he scarily looked at me!

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That mom instinct all the time.

So the story kept on for me, when I took a 5-year-old cousin to the hospital for the surgical intervention. Because his mom was out of town. And I stayed there trying to take good care out of him, not knowing anything about dealing with the sick kid of that age!

I also didn’t know a single thing about a three-year-old boy from the neighbourhood who spent the whole summer vacation with me, an 11-year-old. We read books, I taught him letters and spent all of my pocket money buying him treats when he earned!

The next year, another boy’s mom (also from the neighbourhood), came to my doors and asked of me to take care of his 6-year-old kid.

After I finished high school and started my literature studies, I joined the tutoring program in one of our local basic schools. Most of the kids I worked with there had some mental disorder or low IQ.

Still, no matter how hard was to work with them, they were all lovely kids willing to learn and behave the best they could.

I always educated on positive parenting and I still do. It’s like my passion no 1. But lately, parents have been talking about the instinct and how that’s all it takes to be a successful parent.

Honestly, they brought me to a thinking stage like never before. Is it necessary to always cling onto books, they asked. Even though they caught me unprepared, because “parenting books to guide us through the difficult times, duh!” was the only way of thinking, let me answer that question for you! 

Are parenting books a necessity?

When my husband and I decided to expand our family, I was 22. We bought the pregnancy book and did all that was in our hands to make it go smooth. I had one pretty healthy pregnancy because I consumed the right food and exercised. Back then, I was travelling to the University almost every day and I gave birth to a baby boy in two hours.

But would I know all the stuff if I hadn’t educated myself previously? I would’ve known quite a bit. So, a big plus for the mom instincts! 

BUT. When you give birth for the first time, it’s like a journey to the unknown. You experience all those post-pregnancy physical and mental traumas for the first time.

Being a newbie in parenting has a big list of dilemmas. No matter how many times I took care of kids, I took care of them for a short period. So I was a complete parenting newbie!

Parents are those who stay for the whole show. Parents are the main anchor, the support and the problem saviours.

Everybody else might treat the kid bad, but mom and dad must know how to cope with it. They must know how to handle all kinds of situations. That’s why parenting books ARE a necessity. That’s why parents educate first.

Top 3 parenting books, according to me.

1 What to expect, Heidi Murkoff.

I’m sure you’ve heard of this book before (or saw it in movies). There’s a set of these books for each period of parenting a young child (and before that too).

Actually, if you want to prepare for pregnancy and lead a healthy pregnancy, these books are a MUST. These books are also a must to smoothly survive the post-delivery period and the first three years of your toddler’s life!

2 How to multiply your baby’s intelligence, Glenn & Janet Doman.

The book that teaches you how to teach your child reading, mathematics, and general knowledge. Simply written techniques, proven by an expert who devoted his all life improving young children’s lives.

Children are capable to learn fast from ages 0 to 6, so why don’t start them young? There are videos of his technique on youtube that show babies that read at the age of 6!

3 The big book of organic baby food, Stephanie Middleberg.

We know how moms are confused and scared when it comes to feeding the baby for the first time. The book consists of all organic recipes for babies, toddler (and later).

Discipline, learning and health. 

Those are the three keys to surviving pregnancy, young ages and motherhood in general. Do your best today to raise a responsible grown-up tomorrow. It’s your obligation, so educate. 

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