Mommying could’ve been the worse role I got into if I hadn’t done it. I stepped outside of my comfort zone.
So far, I’ve counted 25 years of being present and not being present so much (well, if we neglect the fact that I couldn’t count in the first two years).
Each year brought me new experiences, new faces to remember and to forget, new roles to play. Looking back at my life from the perspective I stand nowadays, it hasn’t been that bad. Except for the high school days!
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Why do people feel unworthy?
Now that I mentioned high school, I want you to remember your high school days. Even if you weren’t hurt hugely, there were still people who wear those same scars. Even nowadays. And you can see it on their faces!
When adulting, they still have issues. In case they stepped out of their comfort zone and started a positive war. I named it that way because a positive war doesn’t mean arguing or fighting with somebody. It means embracing your inner self after that glorious moment in which you realize no one has a right to choose your destiny except you.
In case you’re still living in the same city and the same area where you spent your childhood, that might be a problem. People that know you from the beginning don’t know how to accept changes or your new ideas.
I started this website after my son turned 1, but the truth is, I wanted to do that for so long. Anyhow, this action helped me step out of the strictest comfort zone: me being a shy girl without that louder tone of voice and any need to take a lot of pictures of myself.
My husband tried so hard, but it was up to me to start the process. After that, he gently continued to support my actions and stand between every critic sent towards my blog and me. And there were so many.
How to overcome people?
I mean, forget about the ex who wanted of you to feel scared of life. Leave the chatty neighbourhood behind. The negative people that talk about death, cheaters, or even about you in a secret way. Forget about jealous friends that don’t support your journey and want way too much than just a piece of you.
They aren’t even worth that single piece. They are no good for your productivity because they always find a way to put you down.
I felt so sad in the past few months when I looked through the statistics of my blog and found out my so-called friends don’t support me. Also, they never shared an article from my blog to any of their profiles and they always want to know about the money I’m making. Only that.
My husband let me handle the phase of depression on my own. After a short amount of time, I finally named my emotional vampires. It’s very important to name them, to face them, and to leave them behind. Whoever it is (your ex, a family member, the society, or friends), ditch them for good and you’ll find your purpose soon!
Remember, there’s no place for the Universe to listen to your wishes if somebody stays in front of them.
Step outside of your comfort zone!
Do it for good. Now that those vampires are not welcome anymore, it’s time for you to live up to your dreams.
It must be hard chasing your dreams, failing or even not daring to speak them out loud. But it’s ONLY up to you. Because good happens to those who expect good.
Do whatever you like doing. Be whoever you want to be. Stand up behind whatever idea that comes up to your mind.
Only you hold the remote controller.
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Michael says
First, its a choice. Second, maturity will come. Third, it comes with age for some.
mommysup says
I somewhat agree. However, I believe anyone’s life would be greater if they have a bit higher confidence. 🙂
Kuntala Banerjee says
Well yes self confidence is important as per my experience. You need to have a go ahead attitude.
Czjai says
Great tips, and yes, I totally agree – Confidence is the key to everything.
Emily Fata says
Stepping outside of my comfort zone is definitely something that I have been trying to improve on over the years, especially since I entered my 20s.
Mona says
Thanks for these tips. It’s a daily struggle but important to push the boundaries!
twinspirational says
You have such a supportive husband. I agree to all your points here. Especially in avoiding those negative people who doesn’t uplift your spirit.
kevin Akidi says
Motherhood is scary in the beginning but definitely worth it. It is very rewarding in the end. You just have to remember to not lose yourself in the process of giving to others.
Geraline Batarra says
Oh these are such great tips.. I enjoyed reading your blogs.. It made me realize things that I’ve should’ve done before.. 😘
Laura says
I think it’s so important to sep out of your comfort zone. I have been doing it more and more, which has been good for me x
Laura
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mommysup says
Good for you! Yes, any progress you are able to change for better is good progress!
Alexandra Cook says
It’s hard to get out of our comfort zone when your there for so long. And to step out and improve is tough when nobody wants to make mistakes and travel through hard obstacles.
Mudpiefridays says
Staying comfortable almost always means staying stagnant. To move forward, you have to prepare for all outcomes and get uncomfortable.
Amy says
This is a really interesting post indeed. I think it is important to step out of your comfort zone sometimes as thats where the magic usually happens!
Suzanne says
Stepping outside of my comfort zone has always changed my life for the better!
Jennifer says
This such a great post and so many people need to read it. I personally have never felt this way, but I do know how important it is to block and avoid negative people. I’m glad that you have a supportive husband, when you have people like that in your corner you can accomplish so much!
Samar says
Stepping outside the comfort zone is really important because we get too comfortable and we stay here for a very long time, which slows down the whole process.
Quin Cl says
Stepping outside of the comfort zone could be really daunting. I was so introvert, or still am, but I’m overcoming it. Maybe it comes with maturity too. I have started to overcome it when I decided I have to go to another country. From then on, I met different types of people and with the type of work I have, it gives me strength and the skill to adapt to different types of personalities. But introversion is always in me, sometimes hidden when I have to hide it at times.
mommysup says
Also an introvert, but I really like being this way most of the times. Yes, it’s a bit harder for me too, but small goals like you listed already (moving to another country is mine as well) makes me braver and closer to stepping outside. Anyways, introversion is who I am, but you’re so right we have to hide it sometimes in order to see the bigger picture. 🙂
Aisnley says
It is very important for our comfort zone. Great tips. Confidence is the key to everything.
Mommy Ruby says
Confidence is really the key. Stepping out your comfort zone is hard but once you do it, thing will become easier.
Dana Brillante Peller says
Sometimes we forget the value of leaving our comfort zones. It’s so liberating!